Dilli ka laddu : Ironies of desires materialized

Dilli ka laddu – literally a sweet from Delhi and a kind of mythical one.  It is that laddu which is told to be as such that the person who has not tasted regrets and so does the person who has tasted. Many people consider marriage as dilli ka laddu !

But this can be extended below :

1.  A film star spends some 10-15 years to make sure that everyone recognizes his /her face (by viewing the films acted in) and once he/she becomes really the star he/she wanted, she / he needs private entrances and exits, makes sure that he/she is not recognized and complains of privacy violation

2. A small business owner at the start of the business explores all options without discrimination. Every new client is an achievement. No opportunity is to be left behind. Then once these all are achieved, the business owner complains of ‘transnational friction’ and ‘too much demanding customer.’

3. A young man falls in love with a woman and then the cycle starts : wooing, courting, marriage and consummation.  After all this, as per a Calcutta philosopher : A man needs a woman only to understand that he does not need woman.

4. A young doctor starts his career and waits for patients in his mint-condition chamber. A patient seems like bright sunshine in a cold morning : a ray of hope. He works diligently and becomes successful. Very successful that it takes 2 months to receive his appointment. Money, status, fame, authority all come in due course and measure. Then, he complains of not getting proper secretary who will enforce his daily quota of patients and envies a time rich cash poor man like me !

5. A young working couple living in a metropolis, in a small flat dreams of a large home with front yard and back yard. Working hard for at least 20 years, they achieve the dream and the house becomes their own. Now they are past 50 and their children have gone to other geographies to pursue their destiny. The big house now needs maintenance and afflictions like arthritis, osteoporosis, local stick-up artists – all make the couple rethink : This large house has become cause of a headache !

6. A father who was a self-made man and made a fortune from zero mellows in his old age. He vows that his children should not be in the group of ‘have nots’. He looks at his teenage son and showers more than what is needed because when he was of such age, he struggled so hard to get bare necessities. His son gets accustomed to these privileges and considers these not as a grace but an entitlement. He gets satisfaction that his son did not need to struggle as he did. He did achieve something.  The teenage boy becomes a spoiled and entitled kid and complains that he is not given more power. He forgets that he is not qualified to handle the power. With the noble intention of making life comfortable for the son, the father, with all the good intention actually denies him the greatest gift  of being alive : to become self-reliant and to become a self-made man.

All our desires have this aspect : a man needs something until he gets it !

One response to “Dilli ka laddu : Ironies of desires materialized

  1. All the anecdotes and its philosophical implications as described have been emanated from intimately observing the flow of life for long. Life is too long to sustain a particular obsession, particular value. Everything is relative. Changes in place ,time and personnel change our thought process. But I may relate one of my experiences which commensurates with the last anecdote . During my days of bird-watching I found out one very passionate man ,being very much sympathetic about the hard toil a bird (female one) had to put in for making her nest , intended to make the nests himself on behalf of the birds. Before doing so he observed very intently as to how the nests were made , what elements were picked up by the birds for making the nests etc, etc . In this way he made some 50 nests. But alas, no birds came to lay eggs there! Being disheartened he came to an expert in ornithology. He told to him that making nests is included in the whole process of laying eggs. What hard toil the bird is putting in to make the nest is very much necessary to make her body fit for laying eggs. So they will never come to the nest prepared by you. My inference is that the well to do parents who are making the nests on behalf of their children are actually weakening their children. . As a result their capacity to perform on their own (laying eggs) is being restricted. .

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